5 Truths About Motherhood

`When I was growing up I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I would play with my baby dolls and imagine being the best mom ever.

And with my barbies...the mom barbie I played with, was the cool mom that all the kids liked. 

BUT...Let me tell you a few realities about motherhood that I have learned since I first became a mom.


1. Being a Mom is hard...

When you first get that positive pregnancy test all you can think about is how good it will be to be a mom and have a baby. 

How much fun you will have dressing your new baby, and the peaceful sleeping baby will get. And then when your baby gets a little older how feeding your toddler will be so much fun to see all the silly faces when she tries new foods.

What you don't think about is that you'll peed on when you change your newborns diaper. When you try to dress that cute little bundle in that little outfit your baby won't stop kicking his legs, or trying to roll over. It's an exercise just to get the little stinker dressed. Getting a baby dressed is hard...

The sleepless nights you now get because your baby wants a bottle every 5 minutes. Or teething that keeps baby awake. Getting baby to sleep good is hard...

Those cute silly faces your expecting to see when baby tries new foods. But, you also get those new foods on the wall, the floor, all over babies face, and all over you. Feeding a baby is hard...

Parenting is also hard because when toddlers get older they start talking. Then you start hearing the word 'no' coming from them a lot. They start back-talking and trying to get their own way. Oh and the fighting and attitudes, don't even get me started on that. 

2. Being a Wife is hard...

You have so many dreams of being the perfect mom when you become one, that sometimes you forget that your still a wife. I'm including this because to be a good mom, I need to also be a good wife. I have three girls, their watching and learning from me how to be a wife and mom. 

Sometimes at the end of the day you just want to go to bed and relax. Maybe watch tv or read a book to unwind. You really just want to be left alone. No more people to pull on your shirt and ask for a snack or hang on your legs or ask for another drink or ask for another story... or, the list goes on. 

So at the end of the day, if your like me, you just want to be left alone. No more questions, no more hanging off me, no more (insert your answer here). 

But that's not always the reality. You still have a husband that needs your attention too. And as much as you just want to hibernate for the rest of the night until the kids get up in the morning...you can't. 

It's hard to be a wife at the end of a long day of being a mom.


3. Being a Friend is hard...

Sometimes you make plans with a friend to go out without kids... But then you have to cancel last minute because a kid gets sick.

You feel like the worst friend ever... because it seems like this happens every time you go out.

Or on the rare chance that you still have a friend without kids... you only talk about your kids because they are your job. Your with them all day everyday. You never ever get a break from them. And your friend is probably sick and tired of hearing about all your kid stories. 

Then there's the fact that your always busy. Your kids have things going on, so trying to schedule a night out is close to impossible.


4. Being a Person is hard...

Your now socially awkward because you're around your kids all the time. 

You say things like "I'll be right back, I gotta go potty" and other things like that.

If your a stay at home mom like I am you may be a lonely mom too. Being a stay at home mom you don't get much adult interaction, which is also why your socially awkward too. 

My kids are my job. I also home-school my 2 oldest. Which means I'm at home a lot. That also means I don't get out much...See where I'm going with this? ...It's lonely. 

You can also lose your identity. Your life revolves around your kids and everything they do and what their involved in. You lose time to do things that you enjoy, just for fun. 

"Who are you?" ... "I'm so and so's mom"

You can forget who you are, and who you were before you had kids. 


5. Not wanting to change a thing is hard...

Yes...I know this sounds crazy. But have you ever thought your life would be so much easier if things were different? If you were someone else? If you didn't have kids?

But the fact is, I don't want my life to be different. I don't want to be someone else. I don't want to not have my kids. I love my life... because it's mine. My ups and downs...are MY ups and downs.

The fact is...even though these little people have taken over my life...I wouldn't have it any other way. I love them more than anything.