Whether I like it or not I am the biggest example in my kids' life. Especially being a stay at home mom...I am with them all the time. What I do...they will see, whether I know it or not.
Being an example and role model is a silent job...it's un-seen. They see the things you do and how you act even if you don't know their watching...So what I do is something I have to be ok with my girls doing. The way I react to something...is that the way I want them to react too?
I have pierced ears...and I'm ok with my girls getting pierced ears. Even though they haven't yet. They do need to be responsible enough to not mess with them and help take care of them.
I have dyed my hair red before...there are pictures. Am I ok with my girls dyeing their hair a surprising or strange color?
I don't have any tattoos...do I want my girls following in my example and not getting a tattoo? If I had one...I would have to be ok with my kids getting one too.
Do I want my girls to talk clean? Yes...so that's how I talk. Have good manners?...say please and thank you? Yes! That's why I even say please and thank you to my girls. If I expect them to have good manners toward others...it only makes sense to have good manners to them too.
I need to dress the way I want my girls to dress. As a mom of girls I need to teach them to dress modestly...even at a young age. The way I dress is a good influence on them and how they should dress. Even though they may be too young right now to understand, I can still lead by example and use this as a tool for later when they will understand.
Even just the little things I do...like how I react when I get mad. Or how I handle punishing them. It's all things that their little minds are taking in. I want their minds to absorb the right things. Am I doing the right things? Am I being the right kind of influence on them?
This is not something that I think about as much as I should. In the midst of being mad I usually don't stop and think "what kind of example am I being right now". Am I leading them in the right direction? In the way they should go?
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